Silence
And other lessons of a lifetime, that I’ve come to learn over last year and this one.
2020 taught me that we all want to believe we are good people, even when we are not. That we don’t really know ourselves, despite what we may think. That we should never underestimate someone’s capacity for change. That giving up is easy, it’s the holding on that’s hard. But it’s far more important to ensure one’s dignity and self-respect. How respect is important in all relationships. How people can cheat you emotionally and that’s far worse than physically. That repeating false information doesn’t make it true. That your value and worth is not determined by anyone else but yourself. We can be spiralling all our lives but it takes one big massive life-changing event like death, hearth-break, betrayal, loss or all of them together to completely change your destiny. And that ultimately, when you’re good, and you do good, and your heart is pure, the universe will make the intervention when you can’t, to make things right. Even when you can’t see it in the short term. Hard work always pays, be it in work, in love, in wanting to succeed. Fear is not a bad thing, rather it’s what is capable of driving us to be and do good. You owe no one an explanation, you have rights to your own thoughts and judgments and that ultimately one should never ever disregard their one’s gut feeling. It’s important to keep learning, and that it’s wiser to spend time sharpening your skills than just existing. It’s important to find the time and routine to meditate like it is to read, to work out, to clean up, to take responsibility, irrespective of what situation you might be in. The more resilient you have been, the fights you’ve put up for the things you wished better only make it easier to let go. Of worldly things, ideals, pets, people. Only we’re able to break ‘over attachment’ to them. In our own way and time. And leaving them in the past is no reflection on you.
2021 taught me why they say ‘silence is golden’. And why it’s important to observe patiently and why it’s never a good idea to celebrate prematurely. Also why it’s important to absorb first and then react. Or that its your choice to react at all. How you feel and see yourself is what determines how others see you. That death helps put small things into perspective as much as it does big things. And it makes it easier free up your mind by letting go of anger and resentment rather than finding means and reasons for holding on to it with no avail. We’re stronger that we know. We are more capable than we think. We should embrace being competitive, ambitious with pride. Or doing what it takes to ensure our own mental peace before be try to help or advise others. Humans chose life over death every time. So we have to ensure we make every living breath count. When we do something with all our heart, it makes it truly special. This the essence of our hard work that really makes other’s feel special. Or makes our loved ones feel like they do when we shower them with all our attention and affection. Human genuinity, like real hard work is easy to fake but harder to replicate long term. Your sex appeal is not defined by your looks but the confidence you carry your with. By how highly you think of yourself and how little you let other’s thoughts and judgements definitely how you look or feel. That even when your mind says you’re ready to move forward from something, a heart break, an illness, its eminent to follow processes. Give it time. To give it space.
Wondering what revelation 2022 will bring!
